"What Makes You Different, Makes You Beautiful" ♥

Assalamualaikum & Salaam sayang loves ♥ :))


How are you today? Have you been good? I surely hope so..I hope you've been blessed by HIM with lots of laughter and love over the past few weeks, cause I have and if I were to be frank, I have enjoyed every minute of it! *Alhamdulillah!*

Partly because I've been attending loads of weddings over the past few weeks. And I love weddings, they make me HAAAAAPPY! Nothing excites me more than seeing a beautiful and loving couple walk down the 'aisle' towards their dais/pelamin... *sigh* and I can get pretty emotional too when I watch the wedding videos they played at the receptions..cause it's just so..darn beautiful...

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Anyways, this post is definitely NOT about weddings. Hehee..it's about embracing your uniqueness and differences. Everyone's born different, no one person is the same. Each one of us have different personalities. And maybe, some are born more beautiful (physically) than others; but there are also some who are just as beautiful on the outside due to their awesome personalities... :)

So no one is really at loss here; but of course, society tells you differently..they judged us (both you and me) based on our appearances. There's a phrase that says, "Don't judge a book by it's cover" - but certainly, that's exactly what we're all guilty off (yup, this includes both you and me too unfortunately)..hmmm..

It's quite sad really when we think about it. Someone not given a chance just because how she looks/acts may be a bit different than most. We need to try to be less judgmental of others, that's for sure. What we've all known for years is that no one is perfect; hence, that should make us realize that we're in no position to judge others just because they're a tad different. Everyone should be given a fair chance to be 'liked/appreciated/loved' even IF they ARE a bit different. After all, everyone's beautiful in their own way...kan? :)

Always put this thought in your mind, that the most precious thing in the world is you, yourself. Because style is often imitated, and trend always changes - but there won't be another you. Cause you're irreplaceable.. :)

Alritey then, before I end this post - lemme share with you a song that I love from the infamous boyband the "Backstreet Boys"..hope that all of you sweethearts would be blessed with more love and laughter from now onwards. And may Allah bless all of you and your loved ones always! *insyaAllah* :)

Always appreciate the beauty that is you ♥

Much love,
-Me-

Salaam ♥

I've Learned.... ♥

Assalamualaikum & Salaam sayang ♥ :)

"As I’ve grown, I’ve learned several things. Life is full of disappointments and people you trusted will sooner or later let you down. I’ve learned that often those you love will love someone else and there’s only one way to fall; fast and hard. I’ve learned that out of thousands of smiles, it takes one to touch your heart. I’ve found that words can be deceiving, but the truth always lies in a person’s eyes. I’ve learned that everything can change in the blink of an eye and tears often come without invitation. I’ve learned crying can make us stronger and there is never too much love to go around. I’ve learned that prejudice helps no one and that weapons don’t hurt people, people hurt people. I’ve learned sticks and stones may leave cuts and bruises but harsh words leave scars. I’ve found that every time you give someone a piece of your heart, it’s a piece that you will never get back. I’ve learned the past is meant to be put behind us and we can’t dwell on regrets, for what’s done is done. I’ve learned that trusting yourself is the first step and that forgiving is remembering that helps your own heart more then theirs. I’ve found that family isn’t always blood and everyone is someone’s hero. I’ve learned life is unexpected and that God can do anything. I’ve learned some things aren’t meant to be understood and that only time heals. I’ve found that imagination is our greatest gift and that we are meant to dream for a reason. I’ve learned it is never too late to fall in love and that being ‘beautiful’ is all on the inside. Mistakes are our best teachers and everything happens for a reason. Only then can you live life to it’s full and true potential."


I found the above excerpt(?) in Tumblr; and I couldn't have describe what I've learned so far in this short 25 years of mine better than the author. But if I may add; I've also discovered that through all the heartbreaks, the pain and the obstacles that I've gone through - having faith in HIM and yourself is the first step in moving on and getting better.

I've learned that happiness doesn't always have to be a big box wrapped in a beautiful gift wrap with a bow on top; for essentially, happiness is how WE define it to be. Apart from that, I've also learned that 'fate' is a powerful thing, and that when GOD says YES, nobody in the world can say NO. And above all else, I've learned that all the tests/obstacles HE 'gave' us sometimes can be the greatest form of blessing for ultimately, HE is the GREATEST and obviously, HE knows BEST... ♥


Much love,
-Me-

Salaam ♥

.FRIENDS.

Assalamualaikum & salaam sayang ♥ :)


Hope all of you are well..I came across this post in Tumblr and couldn't resist sharing it with all of you. As a matter of fact, I actually wrote a post similar to this 2 years ago - sharing my thoughts about what constitutes a 'good friend'...

"What defines a best friend? What are the requirements to be a good best friend? How many hours a week does it entail? Stupid questions that have no answers. A best friend is not defined by how many times they talk on the phone, or how many hours they hang out together. It is not defined by how many sleepovers they gossip at, or how many inside jokes they have. There are no requirements or laws that state that a good best friend must hang out with them every weekend, or tell each other every little detail. A best friend is a matter of opinion. It is the person who has been there for you through everything, not just through the fun things, or the little things. It is the person that you call when you are at your absolute worst, it is the person who saves you when you didn’t even notice that you needed saving, mostly it is the person who accepts you for who you are, and the person that you are becoming.."

There are a looooot of opinions and thoughts shared on what makes a friend --> a 'good/best friend'...personally I think in any form of relationship, there should always be give and take; plenty of forgiveness and yes, patience too. None of us are perfect, hence, we need to make allowances once in awhile for the imperfection that our friends (and that includes ours too) have..with that in mind, always try to surround yourself with friends that can motivate/inspire you to be a better person. And try to be the person that can motivate/inspire someone else too; because ultimately the intention of being in a relationship is to make each of you happier, wiser and grow into more beautiful people than you were before *insyaAllah* :)

That said, when you befriend someone, always have this in mind; 'Don't set certain expectations/requirements that he/she should have', and 'Accept them for who they are and who they're not'.

I listed all of the above because when you start having certain expectations or requirements in your relationship/friendship, you're just setting yourself up for disappointment. Us humans, we're not perfect. We sometimes make promises that we can't keep. We sometimes lie to keep others happy. Setting expectations/requirements evidently restricts your relationship/friendship with someone from 'growing'.

Neither friendship nor relationship can be control. It's not something that you can maneuver. It's an invisible bond that is bind by chemistry. It's either you have 'it' or you don't. Trust, patience, loyalty then comes next after you've realized that he/she understands you and can be someone that you can rely on. Some friends in fact understands you better than others.

Some friends are so easy to talk to, you can tell them aaaaall of your secrets, while others may be the kind of friends that you avoid from sharing too much details with. Doesn't make them less of a friend, though, don't you think?

Ultimately to me, what matters in a relationship/friendship is the fulfillment that you get from having someone that you can call a friend and rely on. The joy of having a companion that will not only share all your laughters, but your pain too. And last but not least, berkawan biar ikhlas. When you have good intentions, InsyaAllah your friendship will always be protected by HIM from conflict, turmoil and misunderstandings. Ameen.

Much love,
-Me-

Salaam ♥

p.s. Excuse my way of writing in the previous post if you may; it was a personal one as you can see and I was just explaining things the way I see it at the moment. Prolly not my best post, but it was just me expressing my two cents on an 'issue' that I felt was getting out-of-hand... :)

Words

Salaam :)


How many of you have said something hurtful and then regret it a second later? *raises hand* I have...plenty of times, to be frank.. *hmmm*


There's a quote that states;

"If your foot slips, you can always recover your balance. But when your tongue slips, you can never recover your words.."

Human's emotions are fragile; when one lacks patience and are deeply hurt - one uses his/her words to inflict pain on others (whether intentionally/unintentionally); if only to make himself/herself feel better. How long do you think he/her would feel better though? Talking from experience, only a millisecond. Then regrets starts creeping in and before I knew it, I'd be consumed with guilt.. *not.a.good.feeling.to.have* (-_-)"

Pain inflicted from words hurts a lot more than a cut from a knife; for you can see the scars created by the physical wound - but the scars that you can't see...? Those usually hurts the most and takes the longest time to heal. How do I know? Cause hey, I've been a 'victim' before too. And trust me, it hurts. A LOT.

Surprising isn't it? How powerful these simple words could be? It could motivate/inspire a person OR it could hurt and saddens them to the point where it could all spiral out of control and lead them to depression. Apart from that, wrong usage of words could also ruin relationships with others; whether it's with your friends, your spouse or even with your family members..

So how do we change this 'disease'? How could we make sure that the words we use don't inflict pain on others, but instead use them to inspire/motivate/make others happy?

I guess first, you gotta understand how powerful these words are. And how much responsibility you have in ensuring that whatever words that comes out from your mouth are well-thought out and is said only with the best of intentions.. :)

Hehee, sounds hard ek? Maybe; lol. But nothing worth having comes easy in life.. :) And if you value the relationships you have with your friends, your spouse and your family; then it would be worth it to start 'practicing' now. Besides, you may not realize it - but in all honesty, the words that you speak indirectly shows what kind of a person you are. Whether you're someone who is kind, honest and honorable OR it could be the total opposite.

Furthermore, I'm sure at some point in our lives, we've all been a 'victim' of this 'disease'; so we would surely know how hurtful it could be when someone said hurtful words to us. So if you understand how painful those words could be, then I'm sure we could all try not to inflict the same pain on others. We learn from experience kan? So we should not repeat those situations just to make ourselves feel better. No revenge is necessary in this world; after all, HE knows BEST. Let HIM decide the 'punishment' that those who hurt us deserves. And for all you know, perhaps they've repented and seek forgiveness from HIM. If HE, the Al-Mighty can forgive them, then why not us...?

So the next time you're about to speak, think. Would the words you speak out be of value to the other party, or would it instead hurt them and subsequently ruined your relationship with him/her. Think. THINK! :)


An Arabic proverb states;

"Open your mouth only if what you are going to say is more beautiful than silence.."

So think my loves; memanglah tidak mudah nak jadik orang yang baik. But if we do all those hurtful things to others when we clearly know how hurtful it is; then unfortunately, we're just the same like them. Like the people who has hurt us. And so the hurtful cycle repeats. They hurt us, we hurt others..then the others hurt 'others'..and on and on the list goes on...it's not exactly a cycle that one should be a part of, to be honest... :)

We could break the hurtful chain by being the bigger person. When we are hurt, and though we might be tempted to use hurtful words on the other party, try to contain your anger by saying zikr to Allah. Take long deep breaths and just walk away. Walk away, so that you could control your anger/hurt and refrain yourself from saying those words...patience is a virtue. And HE, HE loves those who are patient... :)

"Allah surely loves those who are the Sabireen (patient)..." (3:146)

And below is a du'a that we could all insyaAllah benefit from;

Du'a:

"Allahumma musarrifal-qulubi, sarrif qulubana 'ala ta 'atika"

O Allah! Controller of the hearts, direct our hearts to Your obedience... [Ameen]

Besides, if you think about it - what goes around will always come around. The words you speak today could be the words you eat tomorrow. So you should always try to make them sweet! ;)

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Before I end this quite lengthy post of mine, I'd like to leave all you sweethearts with this powerful quote;

"Words can be very powerful. Why not use them to lift someone up today rather than knock them down.." :)

Have a good good Wednesday dear ones, if you're wearing pink today, you could go to Baskin Robbins and treat yourself to some delicious ice-cream...! ;)



Much love,
-Me-


Salaam ♥

Eid-ul Fitr 2011 ♥

Salaam sayang to all :)


Ramadhan is long gone, but there are some parts of me that still misses it. The breaking fast with my loved ones, the fact that we would go to the mosques in our telekungs to perform the Terawikhs..the fact that it is the month that one should go all out to make du'a to HIM so that HE can ease our burdens, and lessen our sins..I now call it "THE MONTH"..and I hope Allah would grant all of us; you and me both, long lives so that we can aaaaaaall welcome another Ramadhan *insyaAllah* Ameen... :)

Anyways, as you lovely readers out there know..we're now in the month of Syawal! I hope it's not too late for me to wish all of you 'Salam Eid-ul Fitr'. Hope you've had a blessed and wonderful wonderful Eid celebration with all your loved ones *insyaAllah*

To me personally, Raya is not about the 'green packets' and fireworks alone; but it's about seeking forgiveness for the mistakes that you have made in the past and spending time with precious people that you hold close to your heart. So that said, I would like to take this opportunity to seek forgiveness from all of you, andai terkasar bahasa atau tersinggung mana-mana pihak. Salah dan silap harap maafkan ye?

**In all honesty, I didn't start this blog to garner followers but as of late, I've noticed that I've gained quite a number of new readers. I write based on experience and sometimes just for the fun of it. Hence, I hope that in some ways - I've managed to inspire (?) or motivate (?) some if not all of you to be a better and more positive person. If you have any experiences or insights that you would like to share with me, you are more than welcome to write to me at warda_sjaffar@hotmail.com.**

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Salam Eid-ul Fitr dari kami sekeluarga. Moga Allah memberkati kita semua dengan kebahagiaan sempena perayaan yang mulia ini, insyaAllah ♥ :))

First day of Raya; celebrated at Abah's eldest sister's house. It was a simple yet beautiful gathering. A loud and noisy one too *just the way I like it* ;)

We went back to Umi's hometown in Singapore the 2nd day of Raya. It was fun visiting my mum's aunties' and uncles'; as we only get to see them about once a year during Eid. Below are some of the pictures taken during our short trip there:

My sisters & yours truly at the Singapore Airport *my cousin & his friend 'kidnapped' us to celebrate my birthday there* :)

The mosque at Arab Street

One of the beautiful mosques in Singapore :)

One of the shopping malls in Singapore; ION Orchard. The architecture of the building is superb! :)

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Birthday flowers from him. They were gorgeous! :)

Celebrated my belated birthday dinner at La Risata, Medan Damansara. A place worth going to! :)

My birthday was on September 1st. I'm now officially 25 years young *hee* I couldn't be more blessed to be able to celebrate Eid and my birthday all in the same week with people that I love and truly treasure in my life. No words could describe how thankful I am of these blessings Ya Allah! And I pray that you would bless them all with much love and happiness, insyaAllah!

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We've about 3 weeks of Eid left; I hope we would all be blessed with more happiness, joy and laughter in this blessed month of Syawal *insyaAllah* And here's a friendly reminder; to those of you who would like to gain more pahala in this beautiful month (it's not compulsory) - let's puasa enam together owkay? It should be done within the month of Syawal, do it continuously or do it alternately - just so long as it's in the month of Syawal. I have yet started doing it myself, but am hoping to start fasting soon *insyaAllah* :)


Alritey then, guess that's all from me for now. May today, tomorrow and insyaAllah the following days would be beautiful for both you and I, Ameen... :)


Much love,
-Me-

Salaam ♥