Words

Salaam :)


How many of you have said something hurtful and then regret it a second later? *raises hand* I have...plenty of times, to be frank.. *hmmm*


There's a quote that states;

"If your foot slips, you can always recover your balance. But when your tongue slips, you can never recover your words.."

Human's emotions are fragile; when one lacks patience and are deeply hurt - one uses his/her words to inflict pain on others (whether intentionally/unintentionally); if only to make himself/herself feel better. How long do you think he/her would feel better though? Talking from experience, only a millisecond. Then regrets starts creeping in and before I knew it, I'd be consumed with guilt.. *not.a.good.feeling.to.have* (-_-)"

Pain inflicted from words hurts a lot more than a cut from a knife; for you can see the scars created by the physical wound - but the scars that you can't see...? Those usually hurts the most and takes the longest time to heal. How do I know? Cause hey, I've been a 'victim' before too. And trust me, it hurts. A LOT.

Surprising isn't it? How powerful these simple words could be? It could motivate/inspire a person OR it could hurt and saddens them to the point where it could all spiral out of control and lead them to depression. Apart from that, wrong usage of words could also ruin relationships with others; whether it's with your friends, your spouse or even with your family members..

So how do we change this 'disease'? How could we make sure that the words we use don't inflict pain on others, but instead use them to inspire/motivate/make others happy?

I guess first, you gotta understand how powerful these words are. And how much responsibility you have in ensuring that whatever words that comes out from your mouth are well-thought out and is said only with the best of intentions.. :)

Hehee, sounds hard ek? Maybe; lol. But nothing worth having comes easy in life.. :) And if you value the relationships you have with your friends, your spouse and your family; then it would be worth it to start 'practicing' now. Besides, you may not realize it - but in all honesty, the words that you speak indirectly shows what kind of a person you are. Whether you're someone who is kind, honest and honorable OR it could be the total opposite.

Furthermore, I'm sure at some point in our lives, we've all been a 'victim' of this 'disease'; so we would surely know how hurtful it could be when someone said hurtful words to us. So if you understand how painful those words could be, then I'm sure we could all try not to inflict the same pain on others. We learn from experience kan? So we should not repeat those situations just to make ourselves feel better. No revenge is necessary in this world; after all, HE knows BEST. Let HIM decide the 'punishment' that those who hurt us deserves. And for all you know, perhaps they've repented and seek forgiveness from HIM. If HE, the Al-Mighty can forgive them, then why not us...?

So the next time you're about to speak, think. Would the words you speak out be of value to the other party, or would it instead hurt them and subsequently ruined your relationship with him/her. Think. THINK! :)


An Arabic proverb states;

"Open your mouth only if what you are going to say is more beautiful than silence.."

So think my loves; memanglah tidak mudah nak jadik orang yang baik. But if we do all those hurtful things to others when we clearly know how hurtful it is; then unfortunately, we're just the same like them. Like the people who has hurt us. And so the hurtful cycle repeats. They hurt us, we hurt others..then the others hurt 'others'..and on and on the list goes on...it's not exactly a cycle that one should be a part of, to be honest... :)

We could break the hurtful chain by being the bigger person. When we are hurt, and though we might be tempted to use hurtful words on the other party, try to contain your anger by saying zikr to Allah. Take long deep breaths and just walk away. Walk away, so that you could control your anger/hurt and refrain yourself from saying those words...patience is a virtue. And HE, HE loves those who are patient... :)

"Allah surely loves those who are the Sabireen (patient)..." (3:146)

And below is a du'a that we could all insyaAllah benefit from;

Du'a:

"Allahumma musarrifal-qulubi, sarrif qulubana 'ala ta 'atika"

O Allah! Controller of the hearts, direct our hearts to Your obedience... [Ameen]

Besides, if you think about it - what goes around will always come around. The words you speak today could be the words you eat tomorrow. So you should always try to make them sweet! ;)

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Before I end this quite lengthy post of mine, I'd like to leave all you sweethearts with this powerful quote;

"Words can be very powerful. Why not use them to lift someone up today rather than knock them down.." :)

Have a good good Wednesday dear ones, if you're wearing pink today, you could go to Baskin Robbins and treat yourself to some delicious ice-cream...! ;)



Much love,
-Me-


Salaam ♥