Sunday, January 29, 2012

More heartbreaks equals to one step closer to your right jar of Nutella

Assalamualaikum & Salaam sayang :)

"Love can't be forced nor planned. It'll happen if it's meant to be, irregardless of the distance, the time or the situation. But what is certain; love can definitely be worked upon. It needs to be 'watered' with patience, faith and lots of prayers..."

Warda S.Jaffar

Lumrah manusia to want someone to love and be loved in return, isn't it? So it's not something out of the norm to 'risk' yourself and 'go out there' to find someone who would 'fit' your idea of 'love'.

Unfortunately, love is not something that you can wished for and immediately get. If it was that easy, my, then everyone would not suffer and Facebook won't be 'flooded' with statuses/quotes on heartbreaks and how 'love hurts'. *shrugs*

Sometimes, I really do wished love was simple though. I wished sometimes men would really put themselves in our shoes before 'pursuing' us women. That they would first think, "Okay, I would not want other men to treat my sister/daughter 'that' way - so I shouldn't treat 'her' (the person he's dating/seeing) that way too.."

But as always, it's easier said than done...right?

And for the men's benefit, it's not fair to put all the blame on them too. As far as *some of them* they are concerned, they're putting themselves 'out there' too, they're risking their 'hearts' to find someone to love too.

Plus, as I've mentioned above - 'love can't be forced nor'll happen if it's meant to be...'

Heartbreaks sucks. It does. But as hard as it may be, everytime you go through a difficult situation especially one that involves feelings you've to be strong and know there MUST be a bigger and better plan for you.

Abah shared 'this' with me the other day, that no one in this world would escape their own share of heartbreaks and hardships - each and everyone of us would have to face their obstacles in their own way, and in their own time. Everyone would be tested with different challenges, but point is - none of us would go through a purely simple life. The 'winner' of these tests would be the one who doesn't lose faith in GOD, always persevered and never lose hope. :)

I know sometimes it's difficult for you (and me both) to really accept the fact that you have to be strong when undergoing a difficult obstacle, especially when it involves matters of the heart. But surely, GOD didn't put you on earth to only let you suffer. Surely all those tests that HE 'gave' you would ultimately lead to a happy ending, one that even you might have not expected. I'm certain that HE has a better plan for you. Everyone have their own purpose in life. I'm sure you do too...but as they say, 'patience is a virtue' patient you must be.

And when you're hurt and suffering, don't forget to treasure those that love and cares for you. Just because one person doesn't love you, that doesn't mean you should forget those who do. "Don't let those who hurt you tear you down. Let those who loves you fix you up!" :))

To those of you who are hurting, below is an excerpt or a statement that I've been meaning to share with you for a very long time but never got a chance to. I found it off the net, in tumblr to be exact. Hope it'll cheer you up! :))

"Look at it this way. You want a big ol' perfect jar of Nutella, right? Every guy that comes along that captures your heart and sadly breaks it, well he's just one tiny ingredient. I'm sure it took the Nutella guy a bunch of times until he finally got it just perfect. Each slob that breaks your heart is adding to your bowl of what you don't need/want and it gives you a better view of what you do want/need. More heartbreaks equals to one step closer to your right jar of Nutella. Take that one thing you liked about those guys and throw it in your bowl of your "Mr. Right Nutella". You'll know when it's time to mix it all up and pack it and spread it on a cracker!"

:) of course life doesn't work that way, that you can just select one thing that you liked and then try to find a guy/girl who fits your description of 'love'. But as mentioned above, "..more heartbreaks equals to one step closer to your right jar of Nutella.." so hopefully, once you've gone through all the 'wrongs', you'll be one step closer to your "Mr. Right"..

What doesn't kill you make you stronger, right? :) I hope in some way, this post has helped motivated/cheered you up. And I pray that GOD would ease your path in finding someone who loves you and appreciates you the way you should be loved & be appreciated, insyaAllah. Ameen.

Much love,


Saturday, January 28, 2012

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings. ♥

Life has never been easy, and it never will be I'm afraid... :)

Some people are luckier than most. They get everything they want and hoped for, and everything comes easy for them. But the things that they achieved, and the happiness that they portrayed might be deceiving. Some people have all the wealth in the world, yet they can't seem to stop looking for more. They are never satisfied and is always on the search for something that would make them 'whole'. How sad is that...?

It's easier said than done, but the trick to 'having more' is to actually always be grateful for everything that you have and everything that you don't.. :)

Mind you, when I talked about being grateful - I am not only referring to the material wealth..things that money can buy, nope. Not only that. But I was also referring to the little things. Things that we sometimes overlook and take for granted, perhaps unintentionally.

Tell me how many of you (me included of course) am always grateful that each day we are given a chance to start afresh, to breathe in the air, or to be able to kiss and hug our loved ones as much as we want to..? 

When we start to appreciate all these little things, insyaAllah only then would we be able to 'receive' more blessings from HIM. :)

So my loves, start being grateful for the little things and pray hard for the bigger ones..but don't be sad if you are not rewarded immediately with whatever it is that you prayed for - GOD is the BEST listener, HE is also the BEST planner. Surely HE would not leave you empty-handed...perhaps the wish that you prayed for is not good for you, and HE is only taking HIS time to reward you with a BETTER 'gift' :)

Don't envy those that have everything, but envy those who has nothing and is still appreciating and enjoying life..try to remember, life isn't only about getting what you want - it's also about loving what you have and appreciating how those things define you..

"He who has none has Allah, and he who has Allah has everything..."

Sh. Navaid Aziz

Below is something I found off the net, and I'd like to share it with you :)

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary, because it means you've made a difference.
It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

When you're sad and feeling low, do spare some time to listen to Guy Sebastian's song; "Don't Worry, Be Happy". We've all experienced situations that are mentioned in this song, but "If you only think of things that you haven't got, You could have it all and still never have enough.."

So loves - stay strong, have faith & always remember that everytime you are facing an obstacle that's too much to bear, "This too shall pass..." :)

Much love,

Salaam ♥

Thursday, January 26, 2012

First Man In My Life: You'll never forget your first love ♥

Assalamualaikum & Salaam Sayang :)

It has certainly been a loooooong time since I've last updated this humble blog of mine. As usual, a lot of things have happened from then and now.

Dear beautiful readers, I started this entry not knowing what to write about, but one thought kept coming back to me - that I love my Abah. And that, one day - he's not going to be the only man in my life. In honest truth, that thought somewhat saddens me...

Abah & I, we have a beautiful connection. My Umi, she's the strong one. She's resilient and she's definitely my inspiration. She gives and gives, and even if she has nothing left to give, she'll think of something TO give. A mother's unconditional love, no other such love would prove to be more beautiful than that, aside from HIS love that is :) So always respect and love your mother at all times, okay? She's not perfect but neither are we. In fact, no one is kan? So accept her flaws and forgive her if she ever hurt you *bet it wasn't intentional*, because I'm sure that all she wants is the best for her children...

Anywho..sorry for going off-course, I get distracted sometimes..hee; okay, so back to our topic: my Abah.

Abah never fails to let his daughters know that he loves us. And he's a workaholic, yet, he always finds time for us. While other fathers occasionally take some time off to meet up with their friends and catch up (and there is NOTHING wrong with that, cause everyone needs some time off once in awhile), Abah would instead spend all his time with us. *I'm so blessed to have you as my father, Abah!*

I guessed what I'm trying to say in this post is that, though Abah may not be the main man in my life once I'm married - he'll always be my first love. How can he not be? He's the first man that dedicated all his time for me, the first man who is always there for me - no excuses, the first man who showed me what love is, and the first man who 'showed' me my worth. Apart from that, indirectly - he also showed me that I deserve to be treated right and loved by a man who knows my worth. "Never settle for less", he says.

Growing up, there are times when I didn't understand why he'd say "No" to things/requests that I felt were harmless. But now that I've matured, I understood that what he was trying to do is to protect me. Protect his little girl's worth. :)

Well Abah. I love you. And thank you for putting up with me for the past 25-26 years. I know I'll never be able to repay what you've done for me. What I can instead do, is to try my best to be the daughter that you would always be proud off, and pray to HIM to bless both you and Umi with health, happiness and love always.

They said you'll never forget your first love...I know I certainly won't :')
*Daddy's little girl for life*

Love always,
Your little girl

Much love,

Salaam ♥