Tuesday, June 7, 2011

.Life Partner.

The person you choose to be your partner in life should be someone who will help you to do the right thing and make the right decisions, someone who will remind you of Allah (GOD) and the fact that you are going to stand in front of HIM alone one day; someone who helps you be a better and stronger you.

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Nobody wants to go through life alone, so it's only a norm that everyone would want to have a partner who would love them, care for them and motivate them when it gets tough for them to go through it alone. How often do we hope for a partner/spouse who would make us a better person tho? Not often enough, to be honest. Most of us if not all of us would usually include 'love me, care for me, take care of me, good-looking, funny, smart and etc' in their checklist (if you have any) but not 'one that would make me a better person than I was before'.

No one should be blamed however, because in all honesty - we always assumed that all that matters is that the partner we have or going to have one day would first and foremost love us and cherish us... :) Improving ourselves so that we could be a better person than we ever were took a backseat because we never really grasp the importance of that particular detail.

But we should. We should include that detail as well because a good relationship should make one grow; so that he/she can be a better and much stronger person than he/she ever was before.

For me personally, a good relationship should have these few essentials. Among some of them are:
(1) It should encourage us to form a stronger bond to our faith and our religion.
Meaning: Our partner should be one who would constantly remind us to not forget HIM; in our thoughts, prayers and life. In that way, it would not only make us closer to HIM, but it would also help us in becoming better individuals/Muslims. Apart from that, through these important reminders - hopefully HE would also bless our relationship with our partner always. InsyaAllah.

(2) It should teach us to be more patient, because sabr is a virtue. And through patience, we'd be able to learn other values as well such as humility and kindness. It's easy to lose your patience when you're mad/upset with how things are not going your way. But if we were to do that, how would we learn to control our anger? So a good partner/spouse should be one who would advise us when we're in that situation. He/She would be able to calm us and teach us to not be overpowered by our anger and instead, be calm and leave it up to HIM, because everything that happens to us, be it good or bad have its own reason behind it.

(3) It should also not distance our relationship with our family especially our parents. Being in a relationship do not compel you to spend every waking minute with your partner. Instead you're supposed to be able to balance spending your time with everyone that you love, be it your family, your friends and even yourself. When a relationship takes too much of your time, I'd suggest you to run because that is not how a relationship should be. A good relationship would enable you to make time for your family, especially your parents because they are your top-most priority; your friends and yes, even yourself.

Well then, those are a few essentials that I could think of right now. Would update them once I could think of more essentials that contributes to a good relationship.

Till then, much love from me *huGs* :)


Monday, June 6, 2011



It's a good feeling, knowing that we've someone by our side when we're lonely or troubled by our worries. But sometimes, there would come a time when we've to face the world/obstacles alone. Sometimes, we've just got to be our very own hero.... :)

I used to listen to this song everyday when I was younger, never fails to lift my spirits up... :))

"There's a hero if you look inside your heart,
You don't have to be afraid of what you are,
There's an answer if you reach into your soul,
And the sorrow that you know would melt away....

And then a hero comes along,
With a strength to carry on,
And you cast your fears aside,
And you'll know you can survive,
So when you feel like hope is gone,
Look inside you and be strong...and you'll finally see the truth;
That a HERO lies in you..." :)


There's a HERO in each and everyone of us. We've just got to believe in our strengths and have faith that HE would not test us with any obstacles/challenges if HE doesn't think that we could come out of it stronger.


Much love,

.Surahs. :)

Surah Fatiha- protects one from the anger of Allah.

Surah Yaseen- from the thirst of the Day of Judgement.

Surah Waaqiah- from poverty and starvation

Surah Mulk- from the punishment of the grave

Surah Kausar- from the enemity of the enemy

Surah Kaafiroon- from kufr at the time of death

Surah Ikhlaas- from hypocrisy

Surah Falaq- from calamities.

Surah Naas- from Evil thoughts.

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Thursday, June 2, 2011

.From my heart to yours.

Salaam. :)

So what do you do when an acquaintance comes to you for help, and asked you to write something that could lift her spirits up? You teared up. Why? Cause you're touched, that's why. And then you began to think of ways to write a perfect 'little note' so that the note could (1) lift her spirits up and (2) impress her. Pffft!

But then, you sat in front of your lappie and then you just stared at it for the longest time before it hits you. No good advise comes from the intention to impress someone. It should come from the heart. And what comes from the heart usually comes from experience. And I have that. Experience, that is.

Yes, we're talking about me. An acquaintance wrote to me earlier today, asking me to help 'lift' her spirits up because her partner left her. With no reason, no words. Poof, and he was gone.

So here it goes, dear friend. This note is written especially for you because you seek my help, and I hope you would feel a little better after reading this. I have no magical potion to ease your pain away, but I hope these few words string into sentences could. *huGs*


Dear friend,

I know you're hurting right now, but trust me - the hurt would ceased away in due time, and though your heart may be scarred - someone would come to collect all the pieces of your heart one day and make you whole again. InsyaAllah.

When someone we love leaves us, we'd usually feel so hurt and lost that we'd think to ourselves that surely, this is the end of the world. We'd feel numb, and for a certain period of time - we'd refuse to think that we could be happy again. But we could. Trust me, we could. I'm living proof of that. I've been hurt plenty of times, up to the point where it hurts so much that everyday became a blur. I was like a zombie, emotionless - drifting through life, just because I had to. During this period however, I had friends who were very supportive, hence that eased the pain a little. And I had HIM. So my advise to you is to surround yourself with your closest friends, family and HIM so that you won't feel lonely.

Getting better however is another matter entirely. Friends and family can motivate you, but you have to WANT to feel better yourself. Only then would you be able to move on and be stronger than before. Crying is an alternative to feeling better. Some would say, "Why should you be crying for him? He's not worth your tears!" Perhaps he's not. But when you cry, you'd feel better. And when you cry, that reflects that you've a heart and that you're brave. Why? Because you took a risk to share your heart with someone. That's bravery. It is no easy task to 'give away' your heart to someone, and loving someone takes courage because you never know if it would work out or not. So don't be sad, be PROUD! That you were brave enough to take the risk to love and be loved in return.

I know that you loved him and you're hurting, but have you ever thought that, perhaps this 'disaster' happened because he was not meant for you? I know that at this particular moment, it'd be hard for you to accept that fact but everything always happens for a reason, dear. It always has and it always will. So perhaps, although it may be impossible for you to accept that fact now but perhaps, when you're ready - you could. Because every single thing that happens, has been written in HIS Luh Mahfuz. Believe HIM; everything that has happened or would happen to you, me and the rest of us have a reason to it.

And perhaps, when a 'disaster' such as this happens, it's HIS sign of letting us know that HE's there. And it's time for us to strengthen our bond to HIM. According to Hadith Qudsi,

"Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) said:
If you never felt pain or experienced problems, how would you know I'm the Healer?
If you never made a mistake, how would you know I'm the Forgiver?
If you were never hurt, how would you know I am the Comforter?
If your life was perfect, then why would you need Me?"

Take this opportunity to turn to HIM, He's the BEST Healer, BEST Forgiver and BEST Comforter in the whole world. Use this sad time of yours to make yourself stronger by being close to HIM. InsyaAllah my dear friend, HE'd listen and heal your heart. After all, HE's the BEST listener too. We need not shout to HIM in order to be heard. HE KNOWS. HE knows everything there is to know about us, so turn to HIM. And insyaAllah, when the time is right, and when it's meant to be - HE'll grant you your wish of being happy, with someone who would love you, treasure you and know your worth. And most importantly, one that would make you be a better person and a better muslimah. InsyaAllah.


I hope the above 'note' would lift your spirits and dry your tears, but I know that a heartbreak such as yours would need some time to heal. I only hope that it won't take too much time however. May HE ease your pain and bring you joy, laughter and PEACE in this time of sadness. But most importantly, may this 'disaster' makes you a stronger and better person too. *huGs*


Much love,

p.s. La Tahzan my dear. <3