Saturday, November 28, 2009


"How come you don't call or text me as often as you used to anymore? I've noticed that nowadays you don't have the time for me but if it's to hangout with them, you'll drop everything you were doing and make time for them.."

The phrase above was shared to me by a friend of mine. One of her friend texted her that and accused her of being unfair and 'not being there' for her. And FYI, 'them' was actually my friends and I.

Define 'being there'. If 'being there' refers to the part that she should be there to comfort and help her friend when she is in need,then I'd say that yeap, my friend has definitely not played her 'good friend' role. But even then, I believe she surely would have had a good explanation to justify her absence from her 'role'.

However, if 'being there' refers to the part that she should spend every spare moment she has with her - shopping or any other activities that you can think off. Then, I'd say that her friend has lost her mind. Doesn't she know that my friend has her own life too?


In the past few years or so, I have come to realized that I'm not particularly a good friend one should have.
Not because I am one who likes to back-stab or take advantage of her friends, but more because of the fact that I like to have my space. Perhaps 'freedom' should be the word.

Honestly, I am not one who texts her friends every single day and devote every waking moment to them. I have a few friends who are in that category, and hey - it's good for them. But seriously, it's not who I am. I don't do that. But Alhamdulillah, I am still blessed with good friends who have been there through thick and thin with me, in various chapters of my life.

Whenever you need me, I will be there for you and I'll try my very best to comfort and help you deal with whatever problems you are facing in your life. But don't expect me to only devote my time to you and judge me when I don't hangout with you 24/7 for I have my own life to deal with. I have other set of friends that needs me as well, and most importantly I have my family who is very dear to me.

And as I come to accept this part of me, I have been more open to discussing about this matter with my friends and tell them frankly about this fact. It's not because I don't care, it's just that I am most of the time caught up with other aspects of my life.

And seriously, when you think about it - don't you think that it is unfair as well to tie down this person whom you called friend to you and only you?

I believe that what sums up a good friend is not the amount of time that he/she devotes to you but her/his ability to seriously BE THERE for you when you have problems that you can't cope on your own. And also, the fact that he/she is able to comfort you without having to say a word and just by being there.

I'm sure there are other descriptions out there on the attitudes or attributes of a good friend, but for me - what is written above sums it all up.


That's why I said her friend has lost her mind - because being a friend doesn't require you to submit to your friend's every wishes and whims ALL the time. There should be give & take in any form of relationship. And this relationship holds no exception.

Friday, November 27, 2009

Mismatched Events

I haven't write in a very long time. A lot of things have happened (naturally) since the last post I wrote aeons ago. Assignments have been submitted (Alhamdulillah); exams are done and over with (DOUBLE Alhamdulillah!) and in a few week's time, the results would be out (oh-oh).

Last weekend I finally got the chance to meet up with my 'virtual friend' - Widaad. LOL. We started our friendship in Friendster during the AI "DOUBLE-DAVID" craze. Believe it or not, it started out with an exchange of harmless comments. And then the FB craze started and we continued our friendship in that as well. LOL. It was good though finally meeting her in person. Nothing compares to meeting up with a friend of yours in 'real flesh' and having a cuppa coffee with her. Or in our case, teh tarik and hot chaRm. Lubie was there with us too!!! And peeps, she's my link to Widaad :D
Meanwhile a few nights back, on Tuesday to be exact - my friends and I went to KLIA to pick-up a friend of ours. She's back for hols and that means "BONDING TIME" for us all. Too bad Aliya's still in UK though. Else, this Circle Of Love would be complete. If I were to be honest, I can't remember the last time all of us were in KL together. Sad. But hey, everyone has their own commitments - be it studies, or work. Thus, we should always appreciate those few rare moments when all of us actually get to meet up and exchange stories to update each other.

We Muslims celebrated Eid-ul Adha yesterday. As usual, us Belwael's would gather at Jid & Baba's house to celebrate the celebration together. Not everyone was there though; Auntie Lamah is in Manchester with Kak Faten while Auntie Jah was away for work in Trinidad. All in all however, I would say that yesterday's celebration was fine if not great. I wouldn't call it somber but it wasn't as "happening" as our previous Eid celebration a few months back.

And owh, Lutfi & Shakir are back! :) Yippie!

Can't wait for the next cousins hangout session! ;))

So long love, till we meet again :)

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Forgiveness can be a gift that we give to ourselves

Here are some easy steps towards forgiveness:
  • Acknowledge your own inner pain.
  • Express those emotions in non-hurtful ways without yelling or attacking.
  • Protect yourself from further victimization.
  • Try to understand the point of view and motivations of the person to be forgiven; replace anger with compassion.
  • Forgive yourself for your role in the relationship.
  • Decide whether to remain in the relationship.
  • Perform the overt act of forgiveness verbally or in writing. If the person is dead or unreachable, you can still write down your feelings in letter form.

p/s: Juz a lil reminder for me and you =)

Saturday, October 3, 2009

Had breakfast at Restoran Ismail, TTDI this morning with my parents..
Altho we've moved to Shah Alam for about 2 years now..whenever we could, my family and I would travel all the way to TTDI just so we can eat it's delicious roti canai or beriyani =)

I'm one of those frequent mamak visitors..but I've never really enjoyed other maple's roti canai as much as I enjoyed Ismail's roti just tastes better..of course, others might differ.LOL ;p

Another reason why I love coming here? Coz everyday, they would write a different new quote. Altho it's written on a plain whiteboard..but, it's these lil things that makes me look forward to coming to their's the anticipation of seeing what are they gonna write next on that plain ol' whiteboard~

Today's quote was;

"Love is a game that two can play and both win."

LOL.. ;))

Monday, July 27, 2009


" A smile is the lighting system of the face, the cooling system of the head and the heating system of the heart.."

tho' your heart is aching
even tho' it's breaking
when there are clouds in the sky
you'll get by
if you
smile through your fear and sorrow
smile and maybe tomorrow
you'll see the sun come shining thru for you.
Light up your face with gladness
hide ev'ry trace of sadness
altho' a tear maybe ever so near
that's the time you must keep on trying
what's the use of crying
you'll find that life is stillworth while
if you'll just smile.


"Your mind knows only some things. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always lead you down the right path."
- Henry Winkler

I've created a lot of blogs these past few years. Unsurprisingly, none of them are current and filled with the latest updates of my absolute fun-filled colorful life (: LOL
This is due to the fact that though i LOVE to write and believe that writing is one of the ways i could vent my feelings and express my emotions, it seems that unconsciously each time i am involved or caught up in some situation, be it good or not..i would be playing them again & again inside my own head. LOL. It might seem freaky or even a tad crazy, but hey, it helps!

However, i think it is now THE right time for me to actually start putting my thoughts and emotions in writing with the hope that i could later on learn something from everything that has happened to me in the past.

Anyways, will be keeping in touch. . sooner rather than later, hopefully! (:

p/s: I haven't always trusted my instincts, and each time i tried to ignore and turn away from all those horrible assumptions or hints that my instincts 'showed' me..i normally end up feeling much worse than before..THAT just shows that it doesn't hurt to give in to your fear and try to listen once in a while..