.From my heart to yours.

Salaam. :)

So what do you do when an acquaintance comes to you for help, and asked you to write something that could lift her spirits up? You teared up. Why? Cause you're touched, that's why. And then you began to think of ways to write a perfect 'little note' so that the note could (1) lift her spirits up and (2) impress her. Pffft!

But then, you sat in front of your lappie and then you just stared at it for the longest time before it hits you. No good advise comes from the intention to impress someone. It should come from the heart. And what comes from the heart usually comes from experience. And I have that. Experience, that is.

Yes, we're talking about me. An acquaintance wrote to me earlier today, asking me to help 'lift' her spirits up because her partner left her. With no reason, no words. Poof, and he was gone.

So here it goes, dear friend. This note is written especially for you because you seek my help, and I hope you would feel a little better after reading this. I have no magical potion to ease your pain away, but I hope these few words string into sentences could. *huGs*

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Dear friend,

I know you're hurting right now, but trust me - the hurt would ceased away in due time, and though your heart may be scarred - someone would come to collect all the pieces of your heart one day and make you whole again. InsyaAllah.

When someone we love leaves us, we'd usually feel so hurt and lost that we'd think to ourselves that surely, this is the end of the world. We'd feel numb, and for a certain period of time - we'd refuse to think that we could be happy again. But we could. Trust me, we could. I'm living proof of that. I've been hurt plenty of times, up to the point where it hurts so much that everyday became a blur. I was like a zombie, emotionless - drifting through life, just because I had to. During this period however, I had friends who were very supportive, hence that eased the pain a little. And I had HIM. So my advise to you is to surround yourself with your closest friends, family and HIM so that you won't feel lonely.

Getting better however is another matter entirely. Friends and family can motivate you, but you have to WANT to feel better yourself. Only then would you be able to move on and be stronger than before. Crying is an alternative to feeling better. Some would say, "Why should you be crying for him? He's not worth your tears!" Perhaps he's not. But when you cry, you'd feel better. And when you cry, that reflects that you've a heart and that you're brave. Why? Because you took a risk to share your heart with someone. That's bravery. It is no easy task to 'give away' your heart to someone, and loving someone takes courage because you never know if it would work out or not. So don't be sad, be PROUD! That you were brave enough to take the risk to love and be loved in return.

I know that you loved him and you're hurting, but have you ever thought that, perhaps this 'disaster' happened because he was not meant for you? I know that at this particular moment, it'd be hard for you to accept that fact but everything always happens for a reason, dear. It always has and it always will. So perhaps, although it may be impossible for you to accept that fact now but perhaps, when you're ready - you could. Because every single thing that happens, has been written in HIS Luh Mahfuz. Believe HIM; everything that has happened or would happen to you, me and the rest of us have a reason to it.

And perhaps, when a 'disaster' such as this happens, it's HIS sign of letting us know that HE's there. And it's time for us to strengthen our bond to HIM. According to Hadith Qudsi,

"Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) said:
If you never felt pain or experienced problems, how would you know I'm the Healer?
If you never made a mistake, how would you know I'm the Forgiver?
If you were never hurt, how would you know I am the Comforter?
If your life was perfect, then why would you need Me?"

Take this opportunity to turn to HIM, He's the BEST Healer, BEST Forgiver and BEST Comforter in the whole world. Use this sad time of yours to make yourself stronger by being close to HIM. InsyaAllah my dear friend, HE'd listen and heal your heart. After all, HE's the BEST listener too. We need not shout to HIM in order to be heard. HE KNOWS. HE knows everything there is to know about us, so turn to HIM. And insyaAllah, when the time is right, and when it's meant to be - HE'll grant you your wish of being happy, with someone who would love you, treasure you and know your worth. And most importantly, one that would make you be a better person and a better muslimah. InsyaAllah.

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I hope the above 'note' would lift your spirits and dry your tears, but I know that a heartbreak such as yours would need some time to heal. I only hope that it won't take too much time however. May HE ease your pain and bring you joy, laughter and PEACE in this time of sadness. But most importantly, may this 'disaster' makes you a stronger and better person too. *huGs*

Salaam.

Much love,
Me.

p.s. La Tahzan my dear. <3